at what age did you discover not trusting people?

At what age did you discover that you couldn't trust humans fully? I don't trust people. Do you?

Stick around. This will be fun.

I don't trust people and that's not a bad thing. I struggled with relationships from a very young age and I had no idea that all my issues with relationships weren't communication. It was that I didn't trust people.

Specifically, I did not trust them to fully be me and still be loved, appreciated, accepted for my full human spectrum. I was born in a beautiful, beautiful Soviet family. But I was an awkward kid. When I arrived into the country, I A, spoke no English, B, had a really weird accent, and C, I even walked funny. That's how awkward I was.

I was confused why no one wanted to be friends with me. And I was very sad. And I felt very rejected. And that led me on this hero's journey of decades of figuring out relationships, love, humans.

There are two skills we need to trust people intelligently: Relating Intelligence.

Number one, understand relationship ratios. For example, the comfort to challenge ratio. We need both in a relationship. If we're too challenged, we get burnt out. If we're too comfortable, we get bored. Our relationships thrive when we have the ratio of comfort and challenge.

Once we understand that relationships are ratios, we need one more skillset.

Training our nervous system capacity.

That way, when we show up as fully ourselves and there is a certain reaction, we can hold that capacity and we don't shrink ourselves back down.

I don't trust people and that's not a bad thing. Stick around for the journey to trusting people intelligently.

At what age did you discover that you couldn't trust humans fully?